Anti-bullying Advice For Parents
Bullying hurts, emotionally and physically. Sometimes bullying even kills. But YOU can help the kids in your life to stop school bullying.
Here’s how:
- LOOK: Bullying happens in the shadows. When no adult is watching or listening. That means you need to pay attention to your child’s behavior. Watch for aggressive signs at home – maybe your child is a bully. Also look out for signs that they feel afraid or sad – maybe your child is a bullying victim.
- QUESTION: Ask lots of questions. What does your child think of other kids at school? Is your child feeling angry or afraid at school? What’s happening to make them feel that way?
- LISTEN: Good listening skills are important. Adult attention can help stop bullying. Listen to your child’s answers carefully without making her or him feel threatened.
- HELP: After listening carefully, talk to your child calmly. Explain why bullying is a problem. Ask how you can help them to stop it.
- THINK: After your talk, spend some time thinking about what’s happening with your child. What other advice can you give them that will help stop bullying? Make sure it will prevent further violence rather than to cause it.
- SEEK: You may need to seek outside help. If needed, speak to teachers, guidance counselors or other parents.
Every adult who is raising a child can help eliminate bullying by talking with that child about bullying experiences at school, honestly and openly. With strong adult guidance, your child stands a much better chance of helping to stop school bullying. For more information or help, call the Humanity Project: 954-205-2722.
I have seen things on the internet about the book, I was a bully…but I stopped, and was wondering if you are selling these books or are they just for your county?? I would def be interested!!
Hi — we’re def selling them!
Just go to the contact page on this site and drop us an email about the books. We’ll let you know how to order. Thx!
hi, just happen to research on bullying. i was awakened to this topic because of the son of a friend. he was suspended from his classes because he was making threats to the other kids who bullied him that if they do not stop, he will kill them. how can a gentle, kind and loving child think of killing someone unless he was pushed to the limits? but the school did not see it this way and just suspended him. there was no disciplinary action taken by the school to the kids who bullied him. his suspension will only agravate the tauntings of the bullies when he comes back to school. what advise can you guys make as to how his parents can handle this?
Hi Sheryl — Thanks for your question. This is a serious situation you are describing. Anytime a child threatens violence, especially lethal violence, it must be taken seriously by officials in and outside the school. But of course the child who makes the threats must be helped too. Where is the school located — what state and city? Each state has different laws and some don’t have any against bullying. But the parents certainly need to step up in this situation. They need to both address the school bullying issues head on to make sure this stops — and they must address their child’s anger and fear issues. I would encourage the parents to really tackle this problem very aggressively, both in their home and at school. Let us know if we can help somehow. We wish them all the very best! Warm regards, Bob Knotts, Founder & President
This is about my Cousin Tina. She teaches 3rd grade in Alabama. Her solution to bullying is that when 2 or more children get in a fight she has them sit together at lunch and learn about each other. With knowledge about each other we can win against bullying everwhere. This is THANKS TO GREAT TEACHERS!
Very interesting comment, Laurie! Thanks very much! A wise solution indeed!
Hi, I Have a Grandson who has been Victim Of Bullying~ I also join’d FB pages on this TOPIC~ about Helping/giving Info for this subject~ because Of Victims of Bullying~ then commiting Suicide~ I have Grandchildren and want to Be sure they Learn ~ Know about~ and Can Cope~ My Question is~ My Grandson has has dealings w/Bullies Prob since he was age 9, He is 14 now and this Continues, Today he was Bullied~ and smacked~ and His Glasses were Sratched and broke~ I advised my Daughter to go to the School~ make Office aware/help contact Parents . Where can I Find Help/or start a Organization to bring Bullying Awareness to Montgomery county OHIO~ thanks
Hi Sheryl – We’ll email you directly with advice. Thanks for contacting the Humanity Project. We’ll do our best to help you! Look for an email from us sometime on Friday (tomorrow). Kind regards, The Humanity Project
My daughter is in the 1st grade. The kids at her bus stop bully her and her friend. Ihave contacted the school but seems nothing is helping. I am afraid for my daughters friend. She is in the 4th grade. The kids that bully her range from 1st to 5th graders. The other day one of them push my daughters friend and my daughter got hit in the jaw. I feel that now my daughter is a target cause she is standing by her friend throught the whole thing. My daughter has never picked on anyone or has been mean to them. I am afraid with all this bullying going on she is going to snap and break down. What can I do to get my county to understand this is happening not only in school but at the bus stops. I was bullied when Iwas in school and had no one but friends to pick me up when I was down from this. I am taking a stand to stop bulling no matter where it is at.
Dear Ms. Crouch — We’re very sorry to hear about your problem. Please look over the Advice for Parents on our website. You’ll find it at this link — and it’s free: http://thehumanityproject.com/programs/anti-bullying-advice-for-parents/
We will email you directly with some other thoughts specific to your daughter’s situation. Thanks for contacting us and please look for that email from us very soon. Good luck and stay with the problem. You can defeat bullying but it may require some very persistent effort.
Let me explain for 19 years my son have been bullied by school personnels and children. He tries so hard to be accepted by the regular education children. He’s experienced being tricked and multipliated by girls and boys and always they are usually regualar education. Instead of me fighting I would just switch school but this problem keeps happen because bullies are always in schools. We can’t avoid them. This recent incident which happened yesterday. My son attends school in McDonough Georgia. He is diagnose with Autism. He was in the gym and he’s being having problems with these boys for sometime according to his teacher but yesterday my son had dislocated one of the boys fingers. They suspended my son and wrote an incident report due to the boy went to them and told them my son grab his fingers and bent it back. No one ask my son for his side of the story. No one such as his teacher, principle or the gym coach they all spoke to the special ed student. I received a letter from a good friend of my son in school. She stated in the letter the boy that got hurt was not my son fault because he and his friends were picking on my son. I feel my child have been bullied a 3rd time in Henry County which is located in Georgia. What can I do or is this considered as bullying?
hi, my name is rbeky, i am being bullied. i have a mole on my chin. and everyday ppl make fun of me. i didnt think one little thing would make a difference in how i see myself. i am bullied so much that know i realize how ugly, fat and stupid. im bullied to the point were i want to kill myself. i hate i hate it soooooooooo mucH!!! I WISH I WASNT EVER BULLIED!!!! I WANT IT TO STOP! HELP ME HELP ME PLZ
Hello Rebeky — Thank you for contacting us. We are going to email you directly with some thoughts … and with our hope that you find some help for your bullying problem. But please do not even consider harming yourself, ok? No matter how much things hurt now, this will change. All you need to do is hang on. We promise — things DO change. Things get better. No one’s hurtful words are worth your life. Please. Because everyone at the Humanity Project cares about you! Other people care about you. But you must seek some help where you live. Let us email you, right now. Please don’t do anything except to seek help because there IS help available. Email coming now. Thank you! We do care!!
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PS. We just tried to email you but the email address you gave didn’t work! But here is our reply for you, ok? Please read…
Hello Rebeky
We just posted this comment as a reply to your comment on the Humanity Project website. Please continue reading after this comment too, ok? We have a few more thoughts:
“Hello Rebeky — Thank you for contacting us. We are going to email you directly with some thoughts … and with our hope that you find some help for your bullying problem. But please do not even consider harming yourself, ok? No matter how much things hurt now, this will change. All you need to do is hang on. We promise — things DO change. Things get better. No one’s hurtful words are worth your life. Please. Because everyone at the Humanity Project cares about you! Other people care about you. But you must seek some help where you live. Let us email you, right now. Please don’t do anything except to seek help because there IS help available. Email coming now. Thank you! We do care!!
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Where do you live and what age are you? Rebeky, we want to help you. But we need you to understand we are not a hotline or crisis line. We are an organization in Fort Lauderdale, Florida that offers an anti-bullying program. But you know what we’d like you to do? Right now, because it can help right now … Please, watch this video, ok? Here’s a link: http://youtu.be/QRVlxBe35sY
It’s a cool music video by a 15-yr-old girl who was bullied, just like you! But she learned to be “Stronger” than the bullies, just as her music video says. Please, please don’t ever think about harming yourself! There are people you can talk to where you live. There IS help today, in a way that wasn’t true in the past. Think about the new movie, “Bully,” and how so many millions of people now know bullying is bad. When I was your age, I was bullied too – but now I’m so glad I grew up to help other people. Let us know how you like the video … and how we can help you. We really DO care about you!
Kindest regards,
Bob Knotts, Founder
The Humanity Project
Dear Ms. Boyd — Thank you for contacting the Humanity Project. We will email you directly with some thoughts on this complicated matter. We hope we can help. Look for that email from the Humanity Project shortly. Good luck!